Many couples enter a marriage expecting a lifetime of bliss. Unfortunately, once the excitement from your wedding settles, you may start to realise that “happily ever after” is not all that it’s cracked up to be. All of a sudden, there are bills to pay, mouths to feed, and an endless pile in the laundry that needs washing. Amidst the confusion, you also start to discover things about your other half that
you never knew.
As you would quickly discover, marriage isn’t always a fairy tale. Instead, it is a continuous learning process and it takes honesty, trust and a whole lot of effort to make things work.
Five things that could happen when you get married:
While many couples would agree that household chores and parenting responsibilities should be shared, few actually find a split that works. Here are some tips on how couples can manage their house chores efficiently and effectively:
- You continue to live the “single” life.We could all use a little “me time” or a fun night-out with friends. But leaving your other half out of the picture over an extended period of time may cause them to feel dejected and unloved. You can get your partner involved by picking up a hobby or an activity that you can do together, such as going to the gym or for dance classes.
- You stop communicating.As you go along your marriage, this can sometimes happen. Couples just stop talking to one another. It doesn’t help that you’re constantly on your smart-phones or your tablets. Remember that marriage is a two-way street. Couples need to constantly make an effort to stay involved in each other’s lives. You can start doing this by putting your gadget down, and actually start interacting with each other.
- You stop courting each other.Inevitably, you fall into that old couple routine. Over time, your marriage may lose its “excitement” and you may forget what brought the two of you together in the first place. Rediscover the spark by undergoing new or novel experiences together, with fun activities such as scuba diving, mountain climbing, travelling or going to a restaurant that lets you wine and dine in pitch-black darkness.
- You stop complimenting each other.One of the simplest and easiest ways to keep the romance alive is by remembering to compliment your partner. As Mark Twain puts it, “One could live on a good compliment for two months!” This may sound a little corny, but making your spouse feel good about themselves, will likely make you feel good about yourself as well. So the next time your partner gets a new haircut, you know what to do.
- You focus too much on the bad stuff.He works too hard and he hardly spends time with the kids. She has too many shoes and is a lousy cook. If you’re constantly finding fault in your partner, it’s time to stop! Do not let resentment take over your marriage. Instead, focus on the good things that brought you together. If your spouse’s attitude or behavioural habits are bothering you, talk to them about it. Being honest with each other will sort things out more quickly.
Over the course of a lifetime together, a couple will discover many things. There will be happy moments, such as having a baby, getting a promotion, or a romantic anniversary dinner. Along the journey, you will also encounter rough waters that often include financial problems and emotional strain. Navigating through these waters and getting through it successfully will make you stronger than you’ve ever been as a couple.