You try to install new software into your computer, but it just does not work. You end up shutting off the computer, slamming the keyboard and yelling about it out loud. That is a tantrum. Adults throw tantrums once in a while, and so do children.
A tantrum occurs when a child is frustrated with the situation that he is facing. Tantrums can be stressful to parents, especially when it happens frequently. Parents often get irritated, frustrated and even worried, but worry not as tantrums are normal. It is common among children aged 18-36 months, but usually decreases when he reaches four years of age.
Why oh Why?
Toddlers are curious by nature and are interested in almost everything they can see, hear, feel, and touch. However, when they are restricted from exploring their surroundings, tantrums can occur. In addition, toddlers are often incapable of communicating their needs effectively due to limited language skills. So, when a toddler fails to communicate his needs to you (e.g. “I’m hungry, mummy”), he gets moody.
How Can I Make it Stop?
It can be really frustrating and even embarrassing when your toddler throws a tantrum in public. Save yourself the embarrassment and take these steps to defuse the situation:
- Distract him. Take your toddler to a different environment or offer him a replacement.
- Make him laugh. Goofy faces or funny voices can make him forget the reason why he sulked in the first place.
- Act normal. Pretend that he is Little Mr. Invisible. If he calls you, keep your cool. Your toddler cries to gain attention, so when he receives none, he would eventually give up and stop.
- Leave him. If all fails, turn away from your toddler. When you don’t react, he may give up.
- However, make sure he is within your reach.
Can I Prevent Tantrums?
- Avoid triggers. Take note of the things or places that trigger your toddler’s tantrums and try to avoid those places.
- Not on an empty stomach. Observe his needs. Do not go out when he is hungry or tired. Bring along a snack just in case he gets hungry.
- Provide options. Instead of you making the decision, let him take charge occasionally. For example, ask him whether he prefers a banana or an apple. His participation can reduce the risk of him throwing tantrums.
- Praise him. If he behaves well, let him know. When he feels good, tantrums are less likely to occur. Everyone could use a compliment, even you.
Tips for Parents to Stay Stress-Free
You need to take care of yourself since tantrums can be stressful.
- Here are several steps that can help you feel better: Once you have developed a strategy to lessen tantrums, stick to it. Consistency helps your toddler to behave better in future.
- Do not rush for changes. It takes time for your toddler to change his behaviour.
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