So, you and your spouse yearn for a baby, but before you convert the guestroom into a nursery, understand that preparing for parenthood is more than picking out wall paper or reading parenting books. Preparation begins before you even conceive.
Values your child will treasure
How you and your spouse treat each other will determine the environment your future child will grow up in. What values do you want your child to have? Discuss and make a list of values that are important to the both of you. Then, start practicing these values in your marriage.
- For instance, if you want your child to treat people with respect, be sure you do the same with your spouse. Do not belittle your spouse or speak harshly.
- If you do not want your child to yell whenever he does not get his way, do not raise your voice with your spouse either. Handle all conflicts with maturity and always carefully consider your spouse’s feelings.
- If you want your child to value his relationship with his family, you and your spouse must start putting your marriage on top of your priority lists.
All decisions your child makes later in life will be influenced by his value system. So do not worry about reading thick volumes on the science of parenting. Get your values right and you can be sure your child will too.